Non-racist parenting attempts to teach children that it is possible to remain neutral about racism while existing in a society built on the ideals of white supremacy. On the other hand, antiracist parenting is driven by the notion that neutrality is an illusion and therefore emphasizes action that continuously fights against white supremacy. Voices of advocacy come in all volumes, tones, and timbers; teach your child to add their voice to the chorus.
None of us would ever think to just leave it up to a magazine, or social media, or cable news to set the expectations for our kids about something like sex. So why would we remain silent and leave it up to those platforms to educate our kids about race? Mindful racial socialization should come primarily from parents and should begin for children of all races from an early age. But what are you supposed to tell them?
Mental Illness is the thing you both are trying to move to the fringes of your relationship. With this shared goal, you don’t have to hide your frustrations about Mental Illness' impact and they are not a personal attack on your partner.